I read a Psalms and a Proverbs everyday. I love when we have 31 days in a month because I get to read Proverbs 31 (one of my favorite chapters)! Every 31st day of the month visit momsareworldchangers.com for a featured blog on Proverbs 31.
A Wife of Noble Character
I have been a wife now for 6 years and I can honestly say that I have loved every year, day, minute and second of being married to David Lanzone. Trust me we have had many ups and downs, our disagreements and tough conversations but I wouldn’t trade any of those moments. I love my husband more then words can say and beyond blessed to have him in my life.
I love the movie “Big Fat Greek Wedding.” One of my favorite parts in the movie is when Maria is talking to her daughter, Toula, and she says, “Let me tell you something, Toula. The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head anyway she wants.” In a lot, and I mean a lot of ways, this quote is very true! As a wife we influence our husband’s decisions. He may make the final in my house, but boy do I have some influence. I do not just influence his decisions but I can influence his day, mood, attitude and confidence.
Proverbs 31:10-12 says, “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
Proverbs 31:25-26 says. “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she give instruction with kindness.”
Let’s be real…throughout my marriage I haven’t always enriched Dave’s life! I have not always been very kind with words, my actions and my intentions haven’t always been for his best. I have feared what the future holds and I have reacted in my emotion instead of praying and trusting God. In those times I have affected my husband’s decisions in negative ways.
As a wife, I am trying my very best to speak words of encouragement and wisdom. I want to be a wife that laughs without fear of the future! I want to give instructions with kindness and not with harsh words and anger. I want to lift up my husband with words of kindness and a heart of thankfulness.
Proverbs 31:28-31, “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and cable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.”
This week I encourage you to be like the woman in Proverbs 31. Speak words of kindness and encouragement. Instead of an ungrateful heart be thankful for your husband. Be your husband’s biggest cheerleading! Use your wisdom to speak life and not harm. Be the wife God has called you to be!
I believe that moms need to take time for themselves. I know this isn’t easy and I know that it is a daily battle that I have. I am learning though when I do take a few minutes a day to take time to spend with Jesus I am a better mommy, wife and person. One way I believe we can equip ourselves is through reading material that will help us grow in our faith.
I wanted to provide a resource page for you with some of my favorite books, music, and activities for you to share Jesus with your kids. Each month I will have a featured item and you have the opportunity to win that resource! Just click the button below and fill out the form for your chance to win!
The Confident Mom
Joyce Meyers writes this amazing book for moms! I started reading this book in April of 2014. I loved it so much that I decided to buy it as a gift for some of my favorite moms for mother’s day! It is a favorite of mine for several reasons and holds a very special place in my heart!
This was the last gift I gave to my beautiful sister-in-law Debbie. She received it days before she went to be with Jesus. I remember receiving her text message with excitement to read it! She was a single mom and she LOVED Jesus with all her heart! Debbie was a true example of mom who had her struggles but was overcoming because of HIM! She was stronger than she knew and loved her Alissa with all her heart! She wasn’t always sure what she was doing but she was determined to find herself and her answer with to all her questions through God and His word! I am so proud of the mommy she was! She is an inspiration to me and so many others still! Debbie is still an amazing mommy & her legacy, love for Jesus will forever be implanted in her daughter’s life! I now have the book that I gave to Debbie. I hold it close to my heart and will cherish it forever.
It took me sometime to finish this book for many reasons, but I finished it! It changed my life forever and I am so glad that I didn’t let life’s situation stop me from reading it! This book talks about so many issues we all deal with as mommies! Fear, confidence, identity, perfection, how to shape your child’s life and so much more! This book relates to all moms in all stages, circumstances and seasons of life! Joyce Meyers uses God’s word in such an amazing way and speaks to moms through His word!
I cannot tell you how many times a week I start something and don’t finish or I go into a room and totally forget why I went in there! This was becoming more frequent and was driving me CRAZY! I was determined to figure out why this was happening…I was starting to get worried about my memory & health! Then one day as I got distracted it hit me! I am a mom of a 3 and 1 year old! Duh!
How many times do your answers in life get put on hold or how many times do we miss out on our miracle because of our distractions in life? There has been so many times I have allowed my distractions to have me miss out on my blessing.
I love the story in Luke 10 about the sisters Mary & Martha. They invited Jesus over for dinner and Martha was freaking out because Jesus was over! It was probably like having the Queen from England over! She was cleaning, cooking and making sure everything was perfect! Martha became upset because she was preparing everything for Jesus and her sister Mary was just sitting with Jesus. Martha says to Jesus, “Master, don’t you care that my sister has abandoned the kitchen to me? Tell her to lend me a hand.” (Luke10:40 msg).
I love Jesus’ response to Martha. It wasn’t the response Martha was expecting. He said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.” (Luke 10:41-41 msg).
Many times I am too focused on work or house stuff and I miss out on an opportunity with my kids or my family. Other times I have allowed distractions, like gossip, finances, and life’s uncertainty to distract me from my miracle or answer in my situation. I allow my distraction to take my focus off of what matters, HIM!
Not sure what you may be going through but don’t let the distraction of your life have you miss out on the “main dish.” Keep your eyes on Jesus, stop constantly cleaning the kitchen and stop fussing over things that don’t matter. He has it under control; He has your miracle waiting for you! Focus on Him and He will provide you with your answer!
I LOVE that God has made us unique and beautiful! I love that God has created no one like you! We all have different gifts, abilities and personalities! I am amazed by God’s creativity.
The one thing that I have a hard time with is wrapping my head around how we are so amazed by people around us, yet so insecure in who we are. If God made you, formed you and empowered you with your gifts and abilities, then why are we so insecure? We constantly compare ourselves to others and hide in our insecurity.
I am certain that we have all dealt with insecurity in our life. We allow others to define us by words and actions. We allow past hurts to control us and we are constantly comparing our moments with someone’s highpoint.
The past couple of years God has really been making me come out of my shell. He has pushed me in areas where I am not 100% comfortable and is showing me what He has for me! I have this new self-confidence that I have never had before. A confidence of who HE created me to be. I am finally seeing who I am, what I can be and what I can do through Him!
Trust me, I still have my days of struggling. Those days when I let people define me and not Him. Those days when I allow the “voices in my head” tell me I am not good enough or I am not like “this” or “that” person. I have realized that I will never be like “that” person because that is not who God created me to be. He created me to be ME and no one will ever be like me!
Ephesians 2:10 (NLT) “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
I am realizing that when we are truly in AWE with Him that’s when we will become in LOVE with ourselves. That’s when you begin to see the beautiful creation that God has designed, a masterpiece! You Love who HE made you to be! A beautiful, confident, unique and fabulous self!
“I pray for my kids” was what I was thinking as I started to tune out the sermon. Then in a clear voice I heard, “Do you really pray for your kids?” I began to have this battle with God on how I was REALLY praying for my children (I should have known better and just stopped the arguing with God…I never win!).
Fear. Something we all deal with. I know that as I have gotten older and have become a mom, I struggle with fear a lot more then ever.
I just finished a book called, Miracle in the Middle, by Charlotte Gambill (AMAZING BOOK!) and she writes this about fear,
It will try to turn off every light that hope has switched on and close every door that faith wants to keep open."
I have seen it in my own life and in so many other’s lives. So many times people are so close to the next step/season in their journey and they let fear take it from them.
If I look back through my life there are so many times I have allowed fear to take or delay my future. I have allowed the fear of what others say, the fear of what society tells me, the fear of losing a loved one, the fear of trusting a friend, a fear of failing or the fear of being alone take over what God has for me, my kids and my family.
One thing I am learning is that fear is contagious!
I have a huge fear of bugs, especially the lovely stink bugs here in PA. They buzz, crawl and fly; ugh! I really do not like them. When my son Landon was about 2 years old a stink bug was flying around in the hallway in our home. I jumped (of course) about 100 feet in the air and screamed! A few days later we had another stink bug in our home. I remember Landon screaming and running away in terror of that bug! He is now terrified of every bug, including lady bugs, and even flies! I allowed my fear to effect my son.
Joyce Meyer writes in her book, The Confident Mom,
Whatever you do consistently is what your children will learn to do. If you yield constantly to worry, they'll be prone to torment themselves with disturbing thoughts. If you choose to believe and speak God's Word and set fearless example, they'll be likely to enjoy life, swing the sword of God's Word, and win battles."
What fears are you spreading to your children or the people around you? What fears are making up stories in your life? What fears are hindering you from God’s best?
I wanted to share some of my fears that I am working on. I believe that when we declare it and share it, you will open a door for God to work in you and conquer your fears.
1. The fear of trusting others.
This is a fear that I have because of past hurts. Now that I am aware of this fear of mine I continually ask myself why I am not trusting of a person? Is it because of the hurt or because of the person.
2. The fear of what people will think of me.
I have always wanted peoples approval and have always been worried of what others think of me. I am realizing that I haven’t been 100% secure in who I am. I am working on strengthening my relationship with Jesus to improve my security and find my value in Him and not in others.
Today I challenge you to think through and identify some of your fears. As you begin to identify and become aware of your fears I want to encourage you to be open and honest with yourself. I also want to encourage you to share your fear(s) below in the comment section and how you are choosing to open a door to allow God to start working in that area of fear.
As I am trying to write this blog I have a very upset, sick little girl. It’s Sunday and I missed out on a great day at my church. It has been a tough week for me. We went to the Wave Conference this week, which was great, but I really didn’t “feel” like I went to the Wave Conference. It has been one of those weeks where I have continually thought, “Why do I even try? Why do I even go to things like this? Why do I work so hard to go to church and just miss out on everything?”
I know that I am not the only mommy who has felt this way but this week I had a major pity party for myself. Not something I am super proud to admit but just being honest. As I sat in the “cry room” at Wave Church with a few other mommies I began to feel sorry for myself. I was upset because I felt like I was missing out. I felt like I wasn’t receiving the blessing from the sermon like everyone else.
As I looked at all the other tired mommies I was reminded of my mom. As I look back at what she did ever single Sunday I am amazed. Every Sunday she got all four of her children ready for church by herself and then served on Sundays. I never remember her complaining or skipping church because she was tired or it was too hard. She brought us to church when it wasn’t easy or convenient.
She taught us to go to church in all situations. Even when it was hard work and life was hard we went to church.
Proverbs 22:6 (CEV) “Teach your children right from wrong, and when they are grown they will still do right.”
I can tell you that right now it is hard and I don’t see my blessing. I know that it would be easier to just stay home some days. But I know that in a few years my children will be asking to go to church. It will become who they are. I believe that because of my weekly effort and importance that one day they choose to go. Not only will they go to church but they will be part of the church, changing lives and sharing Christ to all they meet. I believe that my children will be world changers because their mommy, although tired at times, chose to bring her children to church and decided to model to them what it truly means to be a follower of Christ.
Psalms 21:6 (CEV) “You have given him blessings that will last forever…”
I can tell you that 28 years later my mom has had her blessing given to her. Every Sunday she has the privilege of seeing all her children serving in God’s house. Beyond that she has the privilege to see all her grandchildren serving in God’s house.
I can tell you that this journey isn’t always easy but the blessing is worth it all! I can’t imagine a bigger blessing then to see my children, grandchildren & great grandchildren serving in God’s house!
Hello my name is Tiffany. I am a mom to two beautiful children, Landon & Madelyn and a wife to my Prince Charming, David. A few of my favorite things are Disney, the beach, sharpies & post its.
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