Part 3: Jonathans
I remember coming home from a very long week in New York after Debbie’s funereal to a freshly mowed lawn, mulched flower beds, hundred of cards, goodie baskets and so much more! More then ever did I need the love and support from my family & friends.
Months later I still received texts, continued help with my children and more. I can’t ever begin to describe how grateful & loved we felt during this past year.
This year I found out who the Jonathans & Sauls are in my life. You are probably wondering what I mean by that?
King David had two people in his life. The first person was Saul. Saul was in David’s life for one reason He wanted something. Sauls only want something from you that will benefit them. Often in your lowest times the Sauls will try to take advantage of you or take what you have for themselves or they leave and find someone else. Sauls are takers. They do not give of themselves (unless for personal gain) and their motive is not to have you become the person God wants you to be.
Proverbs 13:20 (NLT), “Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV), “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””
The second person King David had in his life was Jonathan. Charlotte Gambill describes Jonathan’s perfectly.
“Jonathan-type friends are the ones who are secure to serve. They are fulfilled in playing their part and have no desire to be the whole. They are confident in what they bring, and they happily celebrate what you bring. They are sent by God to be on your side, to join your journey and enhance your adventure. They have skills and wisdom, but even better than that, they have the same spirit.” (Miracle in the Middle, pg 185)
Jonathans are the ones that want whats best for you. They want to be apart of your life no matter what role they are playing. They see the calling on your life and want to help you get there.
Proverbs 27:9(CEV) “The sweet smell of incense can make you feel good, but true friendship is better still.”
So many times we miss out on the Jonathans in our lives because we are upset that the Sauls didn’t show up. Other times we miss out on the Jonathans because we don’t like the correction or wisdom they give us. We prefer to stay comfy with the Sauls and never grow and never fully reach our full potential. We end up stuck in a moment and the Sauls in our lives want us to stay there. So many times we would prefer a kiss from our enemy instead of correction from a friend.
Proverbs 27:5-6 (CEV), “A truly good friend will openly correct you. You can trust a friend who corrects you, but kisses from an enemy are nothing but lies.”
I can’t begin to thank the many Jonathans in my life. Each one of them played such an important role in my life, especially this year. Some gave me strength when I was weak, encouragement and love when I needed it most. Other Jonathans spoke into my life and helped me reached my current destination. They prayed for me and my family and continued to check on me! I love all the Jonathans in my life and they will always have a special place in my heart.
Who are the Jonathans in your life? God has placed them there for a reason. Don’t miss out on the Jonathans because they will have an invaluable contribution in conquering your biggest devastations.
Part Two: Anchors
As I look back in the last year or so I have realized that there were several items that my family & I had established in our lives before May of 2014. Some of them I didn’t even realized we established while others we made sure we did establish.
My husband and I have several Anchors that we talked through and have established in our lives. You may be asking: Well, what are “Anchors”? Anchors are items that stay firm in our journey. They are the foundations of our lives. They don’t change no matter what the circumstance may be.
Hebrews 6:19 says (NIV), “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm & secure.”
So many times when we reach the difficult circumstances in our life that is when we discover how deep & established our Anchors truly are. Charlotte Gambill says in her book Miracle in the Middle, “Anchors of any type of commitment or vow deserve the time and space they require to ensure they are securely attached.” Anchors take time to establish and require you to be consistent. Trust me, it isn’t always easy and it can take work, but it is worth the reward when we establish those Anchors.
I love how Charlotte Gambill says this:
“Too often we add layers to our lives without underpinning foundations first. Anchors are foundation fixers. They are the concrete in the commitment, the nonnegotiable amongst all the navigation. Without anchors, we can’t hold our course and are doomed to a destiny of drift.”
So many times we add the layers to our lives before establishing a firm foundation. If our foundations aren't strong and we add layers to them, we will eventually begin to loose course. This is why it is so important to have strong, deep, foundations so when life's devastations hit we have an anchor that keeps us secure.
I want to share a few of the anchors that I believe helped our family get through one of our lives biggest devastations.
1. Faith - I am so thankful that I knew God’s word and have it established in my life. I can’t tell you how many times I read scriptures before I went to bed.
2. Family - There were several times that I wanted to quit, but I saw those two precious faces; Landon & Maddie. I knew that I had to get through and take care of myself for them!
3. Church - Never stop going to church. I am not going to lie, there were many days I didn’t want to go. I didn’t want to get emotional, but I need(ed) my church family more than ever!
4. Marriage – With marriage comes a lot of other anchors. We communicated and had tough conversations when it wasn’t easy. We chose to invest in our marriage and talk through our life situations.
5. Attitude- Choose to have an attitude of thankfulness. Trust me, I know it isn’t always easy. You will have your rough days, but you have a choice to choose your attitude and you can get through your circumstance with a rotten one or a positive one.
If you don’t have anchors in your life I would encourage you to evaluate the anchors that you want for you and your family. Teach your children now how to find their own anchors. Established anchors in your marriage and your friendships. Commit to them and make sure they are securely attached so when life throws you a curve ball you are ready and standing on a firm foundation on the things that matter most to you!
Part one: Introduction
I have been blessed with a beautiful & wonderful life. But let’s be real…right in the mist of our beautiful, wonderful life major tragedies and hardships can hit instantly and change everything.
In May of 2014 my sister-in-law, Debbie, and her daughter Alissa were traveling to PA from NY to surprise me for my baby shower. About a half hour into their trip they got in a horrible car accident and Debbie went to heaven. In an insist, a happy and exciting weekend became one of the hardest and worsts years of mine and my families lives. I have never felt so helpless and weak in my life.
In the next four blogs, I want to share a huge part of my life and heart. I want to share four important aspects/life choices I believe that will help you and your family get through difficult times. I believe that not only will you get through them, but you will conquer lives biggest devastations.
My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; He is mine forever." Psalms 73:26
Hello my name is Tiffany. I am a mom to two beautiful children, Landon & Madelyn and a wife to my Prince Charming, David. A few of my favorite things are Disney, the beach, sharpies & post its.
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