Moms Are World Changers
We were having a great time at our community pool with my kids when my 4 year old son, Landon started having his third melt down of the week. I forgot his new swim noodle and he was devastated! Usually I can just explain the situation and he will go on playing, but not today. He couldn’t control his anger. He started screaming, crying and hitting. It got to the point were I had to start packing up to leave. Not sure how I was going to get to the car with a 1 year old, a screaming 4 year old and all our swim gear, I began to pray about what to do because he was not going to follow me to the car. At that moment a lizard come out from the bushes and I said to my son, “Well if you don’t come with me you will have to sleep at the pool with the lizard.” He looked at me, then the lizard. Then, with a little fear in his eyes, he began to follow me out of the pool.
The next day I called my mom and started talking to her about my frustrations and how I just didn’t know what else to do. I knew that all the changes in our life were affecting him but I knew that I needed to get him out of this habit of reacting with anger. As my mom was listening she said, “Have you prayed about what to do with Landon when he gets upsets? God says that he has equipped us with everything we need.”
2 Timothy 3:16 (NLT), “All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.”
So I got off the phone with my mom and I began to pray and search God’s word. As I read and prayed God gave me James 1:19-20 and from the verse I wrote a three step process for Landon to do when he gets upset & angry. I even found a story in James 3 about how anger affects us and rewrote it so Landon would understand it and I even added pictures and youtube videos.
As I was getting ready to print out the document to go over with Landon, God nudge on my heart and reminded me that this is also something I am dealing with. He was right… I do deal with anger. I find myself going from 0-100 with my kids or my husband and it was something I have been waiting to change in my life. So I rewrote the title from “Landon’s Memory Verse About Anger” to “Landon & Mommy’s Memory Verse About Anger.”
This plan has helped Landon and me with anger. Landon & I still become angry at times but we are learning how to respond correctly. Every time we start to feel angry we go through our three steps and it helps us refocus and respond correctly.
Today, I want to encourage you to pray and search Gods word for your answer. Whether it is a situation with your child, your husband, a friend, your workplace or even an area in yourself, God has given us everything we need for every situation.
By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence.” 2 Peter 1:3 (NLT)
“I pray for my kids” was what I was thinking as I started to tune out the sermon. Then in a clear voice I heard, “Do you really pray for your kids?” I began to have this battle with God on how I was REALLY praying for my children (I should have known better and just stopped the arguing with God…I never win!).
Fear. Something we all deal with. I know that as I have gotten older and have become a mom, I struggle with fear a lot more then ever.
I just finished a book called, Miracle in the Middle, by Charlotte Gambill (AMAZING BOOK!) and she writes this about fear,
It will try to turn off every light that hope has switched on and close every door that faith wants to keep open."
I have seen it in my own life and in so many other’s lives. So many times people are so close to the next step/season in their journey and they let fear take it from them.
If I look back through my life there are so many times I have allowed fear to take or delay my future. I have allowed the fear of what others say, the fear of what society tells me, the fear of losing a loved one, the fear of trusting a friend, a fear of failing or the fear of being alone take over what God has for me, my kids and my family.
One thing I am learning is that fear is contagious!
I have a huge fear of bugs, especially the lovely stink bugs here in PA. They buzz, crawl and fly; ugh! I really do not like them. When my son Landon was about 2 years old a stink bug was flying around in the hallway in our home. I jumped (of course) about 100 feet in the air and screamed! A few days later we had another stink bug in our home. I remember Landon screaming and running away in terror of that bug! He is now terrified of every bug, including lady bugs, and even flies! I allowed my fear to effect my son.
Joyce Meyer writes in her book, The Confident Mom,
Whatever you do consistently is what your children will learn to do. If you yield constantly to worry, they'll be prone to torment themselves with disturbing thoughts. If you choose to believe and speak God's Word and set fearless example, they'll be likely to enjoy life, swing the sword of God's Word, and win battles."
What fears are you spreading to your children or the people around you? What fears are making up stories in your life? What fears are hindering you from God’s best?
I wanted to share some of my fears that I am working on. I believe that when we declare it and share it, you will open a door for God to work in you and conquer your fears.
1. The fear of trusting others.
This is a fear that I have because of past hurts. Now that I am aware of this fear of mine I continually ask myself why I am not trusting of a person? Is it because of the hurt or because of the person.
2. The fear of what people will think of me.
I have always wanted peoples approval and have always been worried of what others think of me. I am realizing that I haven’t been 100% secure in who I am. I am working on strengthening my relationship with Jesus to improve my security and find my value in Him and not in others.
Today I challenge you to think through and identify some of your fears. As you begin to identify and become aware of your fears I want to encourage you to be open and honest with yourself. I also want to encourage you to share your fear(s) below in the comment section and how you are choosing to open a door to allow God to start working in that area of fear.
As I am trying to write this blog I have a very upset, sick little girl. It’s Sunday and I missed out on a great day at my church. It has been a tough week for me. We went to the Wave Conference this week, which was great, but I really didn’t “feel” like I went to the Wave Conference. It has been one of those weeks where I have continually thought, “Why do I even try? Why do I even go to things like this? Why do I work so hard to go to church and just miss out on everything?”
I know that I am not the only mommy who has felt this way but this week I had a major pity party for myself. Not something I am super proud to admit but just being honest. As I sat in the “cry room” at Wave Church with a few other mommies I began to feel sorry for myself. I was upset because I felt like I was missing out. I felt like I wasn’t receiving the blessing from the sermon like everyone else.
As I looked at all the other tired mommies I was reminded of my mom. As I look back at what she did ever single Sunday I am amazed. Every Sunday she got all four of her children ready for church by herself and then served on Sundays. I never remember her complaining or skipping church because she was tired or it was too hard. She brought us to church when it wasn’t easy or convenient.
She taught us to go to church in all situations. Even when it was hard work and life was hard we went to church.
Proverbs 22:6 (CEV) “Teach your children right from wrong, and when they are grown they will still do right.”
I can tell you that right now it is hard and I don’t see my blessing. I know that it would be easier to just stay home some days. But I know that in a few years my children will be asking to go to church. It will become who they are. I believe that because of my weekly effort and importance that one day they choose to go. Not only will they go to church but they will be part of the church, changing lives and sharing Christ to all they meet. I believe that my children will be world changers because their mommy, although tired at times, chose to bring her children to church and decided to model to them what it truly means to be a follower of Christ.
Psalms 21:6 (CEV) “You have given him blessings that will last forever…”
I can tell you that 28 years later my mom has had her blessing given to her. Every Sunday she has the privilege of seeing all her children serving in God’s house. Beyond that she has the privilege to see all her grandchildren serving in God’s house.
I can tell you that this journey isn’t always easy but the blessing is worth it all! I can’t imagine a bigger blessing then to see my children, grandchildren & great grandchildren serving in God’s house!
Our words are powerful. More powerful then we sometimes realize. I’ve noticed that when I am frustrated or just having a bad day my words can “kill” and not bring life. We all have bad days and these are the days that we need to be extra careful with our words.
My son, Landon will be four in September and he still isn’t 100% potty trained. In his defense it has been a rough year for our family and I just haven’t been as consistent as I should. But the past month or so I have been more on top of it and I still have been extremely disappointed. Not just with him but myself. I honestly feel like he is never going to be potty trained! I have literally pictured myself changing poopy diapers FOREVER!
Ever time I talk to people or other mothers I constantly find myself comparing. I am always saying, “Yah, Landon will never be potty trained!” or “My one year old will be trained before him.”
One day while I was having one of my rants and talking about my struggles with potty training I felt extremely convicted. It was like all of a sudden I realized that I was talking negatively about my son. I should be his #1 fan, his biggest supporter! I was allowing my frustrations to take over! I should be speaking life over him and declaring that he will be potty trained!
You are probably thinking I am crazy… It is just potty training! But then I began to really start evaluating what I am speaking over my children. Is it positive or negative?
Proverbs 12:6 “The words of the wicked kill, the speech of the upright saves.” (MSG)
Proverbs 18:21 “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit - you choose.” (MSG)
This week I challenge you to speak life over your children, over yourself, your spouse, family & friends! You maybe surprised with the outcome!
I am not going to lie, Landon still isn’t 100% potty trained but he is doing so much better! Words do bring life and I am speaking life over him…NO MORE POOPY DIAPERS!
In October of 2013 my husband & I found out that we were going to be having our second beautiful baby due in June 2014! Words can not express how excited we were. My first is a boy and I was hoping for a sweet baby girl. On January 24th, we found out that we would be having our Madelyn Mae! My heart was full of JOY!
On May 9th, 2014 my husband’s sister Debbie was on her way to PA for my surprise baby shower and got into a car accident. Debbie went to heaven that day.
As the weeks went by I began to feel extremely overwhelmed with sadness, confusion and a ton of other emotions. I began to question God and ask Him why He would give us a baby now. I could barely take care of myself, husband and son. I couldn’t handle thinking of another person to take care of, especially a baby. Don’t get me wrong I loved my baby girl. I wanted my baby girl but I just wished it was in a different season of life. I struggled with feeling guilty and I was worried I wouldn’t be the best mom I could be to Madelyn.
I believe God speaks to us in different ways. In this moment God spoke to me through my mom. We were sitting and I was talking to her about some of my struggles and emotions. My mom began to share and gave me this verse:
Isaiah 61:3 “To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the lord has planted for his own glory.” (NLT version)
On June 10th, 2014 at 8:50 am Madelyn Mae entered into this world and I can’t imagine my life without her. This date will forever be marked as one of the best days in my life.
Even though we continue to mourn the lose of our beautiful Debbie, God has given our family a joyous blessing, a crown of beauty for ashes, Madelyn Mae. Madelyn continues to remind me of Debbie and her beauty. Her smiles strengthen me and remind me to continue to strive to be excellent in everything life throws at me.
Every once in awhile I read the card Debbie wrote us for our baby shower or look in Madelyn’s closet at the Yankee onesies she got her. Even though I wish Debbie was here I will always cherish these items and I will hold them close to my heart.
Hello my name is Tiffany. I am a mom to two beautiful children, Landon & Madelyn and a wife to my Prince Charming, David. A few of my favorite things are Disney, the beach, sharpies & post its.